The Folsom Street Fair is no soft-core 50 Shades of Grey: the goings on at this celebration of sadomasochistic hedonism would put even Bosch’s Garden of Earthly Delights to shame! Each […]
Sugarbutch & Raquefella Present: For the release of SAY PLEASE: LESBIAN BDSM EROTICA, come join us in LA for dirty readings from dirty butches, including Jeanne Cordova, D’Lo, Ian Harvie, [rife], Claudia Rodriguez, AJ Stacy, Sinclair Sexsmith, with MC Angie Evans.
ABOUT SAY PLEASE
In Say Please, Sinclair Sexsmith presents a cornucopia of queer kink—tantalizing tales rich in variety and saucy details of girls put in their place—and held there firmly. Whether readers dream of surrendering to a lover or of taking control, Say Please offers plenty of erotic inspiration and gives readers exactly what they want! Come hear authors from the book read their stories and celebrate the release of this kinky queer collection.
ABOUT SINCLAIR SEXSMITH
Sinclair Sexsmith runs the award-winning personal online writing project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at sugarbutch.net. With work published in various anthologies and websites, including Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, she is the guest editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, and her first full-length erotica anthology, Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, which was published by Cleis Press in April 2012. Mr. Sexsmith writes, teaches, and performs focusing on the subjects of sex, gender, and relationships. More information on her at mrsexsmith.com.
I’ve spent so much time and energy publicizing, distributing, and writing about the artwork of those I admire but I often pull this self defeatist stunt where I only tell people about my readings a day or two before hand. That way, if the person says they can’t come, it’s not because they don’t care but because they were too busy, and I can save myself from the humiliation of rejection. Fortunately I’ve come to realize this this misguided little selfdefense mechanism no longer serves me.
A friend of mine (for whom I had just organized a reading) confided in me that there was a time at which she only organized shows & readings for others. She told me that night as we sat drinking Hefeweizen in trendy brewery in Oakland that I had “done my time” as an arts programmer and challenged me to start focusing on my own work. Her words were very inspring particularly because she is my favorite writers on contemporary feminist theory and that she didn’t write her first book (which is pretty much required reading for anyone with any interest in feminist studies and contemporary queer theory) until she was in her forties.
Sexual play involving pain and power dynamics have been documented since the third and fourth centuries and the practice has many names including bondage and discipline and sadism and masochism (BDSM), domination and submission (D/s), sadism and masochism (SM), fetish or kink. BDSM and fetish professionals may play the role of a dominant, submissive or switch (a person who plays both roles). Both men and women (including transgender men and women) may work as professional dominants, submissives or switches. Within the industry professional dominants are often referred to as “pro doms” which can include men (Masters) or women (Mistresses). Respectively, professional submissives and switches are referred to as either “pro subs” or “pro switches”
What a Predicament: Predicament Perils for Pleasure and Pain, taught by Ms Nikki Nefarious, is a rope centric interactive class to explore various positions and techniques for predicament bondage. This class caters to both beginners and experienced ropers; and covers safety, basic bondage instruction, and effective yet safe positions.
I use to do a lot more webcam sessions. I think webcamming was My gateway drug into Professional Domination. I certainly learned many skills from being on cam for so many years…. How to wield verbal humiliation like a deadly weapon… How to enthrall a man with the flick of a wrist of the bat of an eye lash. I take some calls on niteflirt.com and others come through on my regular hooker phone from the ads I place for real time domination all over the U.S. but my favorite caller was always my guy with a garbage fetish or rather a garbage bag fetish…
Until last summer I didn’t know any other sex workers…
Have you ever wanted to titillate your partner (or just be sure the club you work at doesn’t lose it’s liquor license) by doing a seductive shimmy and shake followed by a nipple tassel twirling?
Want to get that fabulous showgirl look without spending $40 on something lousy at the adult “novelty store”? Well fear not!