10 Tips For The Aspiring Feminist Dominatrix Check out my first article for xoxojane.com! PS Some folks pointed out that my statement that “dominatrices are at the top of the […]
Wednesday, November 7, 2012 8:00pm Den Of Iniquity, Los Angeles In support of the release of the groundbreaking new book “PLAYING WELL WITH OTHERS: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring & […]
She teetered on five inch heels, drunk on whiskey and macho femme bravado. The cement floor of the bar’s basement was cold and my knees began to ache. The quickness of my breath and the loud drumming of my heart made the dull pain in my knees seem distant. She pulled my hair tightly and pulled my face close to her painted mouth. I smelled the sweat of her neck, the soft perfume of her hair. My pussy ached and the warmth spread through the folds of my lips the same way it did in my chest when I drank the good whiskey she poured for me from her tiny silver flask.
The Folsom Street Fair is no soft-core 50 Shades of Grey: the goings on at this celebration of sadomasochistic hedonism would put even Bosch’s Garden of Earthly Delights to shame! Each […]
Sometimes I say that I am a professional bisexual and other times I say I am “straight for pay”. Only it seems I am becoming straight FOR FREE with increasing regularity and part of me wonders if I should be alarmed!
M. Jackalinski’s color test for the short story “Professional Bisexual” That’s me and Miller riding the bus to Occupy. We are professional (and lifestyle) monsters, really.
My first “not gay” reading on Friday, June 8th pretty much confirms this! I mean, don’t get me wrong, Featherless co-curators Andrea Lambert and Katie are pretty gay (in fact I heard they’re actually GAY TOGETHER!) but still it is a bit thrilling to read at something that is not explicitly HOMO. I’m also thrilled to have the opportunity to read with two really amazing women, Michelle Joyner and Dana Johnson. I’ve been busy working on a chapbook entitled “Professional Bisexual” that I hope to have ready by then. I’m collaborating with some really amazing illustrators including Tara Avery, M. Jackalinski and Amie Wee who is also doing the layout and cover design. I’ve wanted to collaborate with all three artists for years and am thrilled to be doing so now.
Sugarbutch & Raquefella Present: For the release of SAY PLEASE: LESBIAN BDSM EROTICA, come join us in LA for dirty readings from dirty butches, including Jeanne Cordova, D’Lo, Ian Harvie, [rife], Claudia Rodriguez, AJ Stacy, Sinclair Sexsmith, with MC Angie Evans.
ABOUT SAY PLEASE
In Say Please, Sinclair Sexsmith presents a cornucopia of queer kink—tantalizing tales rich in variety and saucy details of girls put in their place—and held there firmly. Whether readers dream of surrendering to a lover or of taking control, Say Please offers plenty of erotic inspiration and gives readers exactly what they want! Come hear authors from the book read their stories and celebrate the release of this kinky queer collection.
ABOUT SINCLAIR SEXSMITH
Sinclair Sexsmith runs the award-winning personal online writing project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at sugarbutch.net. With work published in various anthologies and websites, including Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, she is the guest editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, and her first full-length erotica anthology, Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, which was published by Cleis Press in April 2012. Mr. Sexsmith writes, teaches, and performs focusing on the subjects of sex, gender, and relationships. More information on her at mrsexsmith.com.
The Los Angeles Transgender Film Festival is seeking films for our fourth annual film festival. We will be screening many diverse works made by trans, genderqueer, and intersex artists, including comedy, dramedy, drama, experimental, animation, and more! We also welcome work by allies who are showcasing “transgenderqueer” themes in their work.
A NIGHT OF TRANS-ANARCHISM: a night of performance art by and film by transgender artists featuring: Talia Bettcher, Pony Lee Estrange, Metahuman, aka Kalil Cohen, Micha Cardenas, Deb Simone, Allison Wyper, Natalie Rosen and Leon Wu.
Come to La Tierra de la Culebra Park to celebrate V-day with an afternoon of visual and performance art, screen printing, drumming and radical sex and wellness education.“The Vagina Monologues” by Eve Ensler will begin on the outdoor stage at 6pm.
12-4 Artists, Craftspeople & Vendors
12-4 Sexual Wellness Workshops (See Schedule Below)
2 pm Medicinal Plant Walk With Herbalist, Eden Beth
6 pm “The Vagina Monologues”
8 pm Somatic Awareness: Sex & Creativity (workshop)
8-10 pm Post Performance Party & Community Discussion
Vegan and freegan food will be served all day by the Bike Scum Chapter of Food Not Bombs. Two blocks from the Gold Line.
Admission to the show and workshops is free; a $5 donation is suggested.
Sexual Health & Wellness With Mommy Fiercest
12:00-1:00 BDSM 101
We live every day of our lives within a world constructed of nonconsensual power hierarchies… BOO! HISS!
Now learn about how the consensual exchange of power can be a fun, powerful and even cathartic addition to your sex life. What are the feminist implications of willingly giving up or taking power in a sexual dynamic? How do I tell my partner about my strange desires? BDSM sex toys are expensive, what can I use that’s already laying around the house?
Answers to these questions and yours!
1:30-2:30 pm How To Be An Ally To Transgender People
We all want diversity in our community but how can we make safe space for trans people? What kinds of questions, language, jokes, & comments can make people feel unsafe & unwelcome? We’re all taught to be transphobic and if you haven’t made a conscious effort to unlearn these beliefs, chances are, you’ve got a lil work to do. The good news is you can unlearn these oppressive beliefs and behaviors and become an excellent ally to the transgender and gender non conforming folks around you!
2:45-4 pm Safer Sex For Everyone
What kinds of sex acts are riskier than others? What are the real STI risks of unprotected sex between people with vaginas? How can I safely give a rim job? Why would I wear a latex glove for digital penetration? What in the world can you do with plastic wrap? Why is it important to use lubrication and know what is in your lubricant? Come ready to learn! All questions and desires are safe here!
8:00-9:00 pm Somatic Awareness: Sex & Creativity
A hands-on sexual energy & creative workshop facillitaed by sex and relationship coach, Anya de Montigny. Details to come.
I’ve spent so much time and energy publicizing, distributing, and writing about the artwork of those I admire but I often pull this self defeatist stunt where I only tell people about my readings a day or two before hand. That way, if the person says they can’t come, it’s not because they don’t care but because they were too busy, and I can save myself from the humiliation of rejection. Fortunately I’ve come to realize this this misguided little selfdefense mechanism no longer serves me.
A friend of mine (for whom I had just organized a reading) confided in me that there was a time at which she only organized shows & readings for others. She told me that night as we sat drinking Hefeweizen in trendy brewery in Oakland that I had “done my time” as an arts programmer and challenged me to start focusing on my own work. Her words were very inspring particularly because she is my favorite writers on contemporary feminist theory and that she didn’t write her first book (which is pretty much required reading for anyone with any interest in feminist studies and contemporary queer theory) until she was in her forties.
